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Nearly two years ago I broke my leg while in the mountains in Georgia.
I had to fly home early, then spent a week in hospital, followed by a further 6 weeks with my leg up while I healed. For months after that my ability to move as I once had was limited, and I was left sitting around much more than I ever usually would. As someone who was used to covering marathon and above distances on a days hike then sitting around was hard. I faced some of my worst demons in those months of inactivity, and am still not back to the same level of fitness I had previously enjoyed.
The good thing about this time was that it forced me into a space of introspection, of deep personal learning and development which I am reaping the benefits of now. The bad thing was it gave oodles of time for scrolling through Facebook, and it’s a habit I struggled to break.
Overall I think I have quite a healthy relationship with my phone compared to many. I turn my WiFi and mobile data of every night, and don’t turn it back on in the morning until I’m ready to face the world. I also leave it off when I’m out and about, and, of course, my phone is out of bounds while I’m working with clients.
Yet I still found that, particularly when I was tired, I could all too easily lose a whole half hour (if not more) scrolling through social media. I began to feel increasingly that it was a problem, that I was having days where I was not achieving everything I would have liked, yet had still had time spent on Facebook. I knew that, just as I had already done in many areas of my life, I had to be proactive about creating the change I wanted to experience.
The final straw (and realization) came at New Year when I was taking part in a Firewalk run by Stephen at Lendrick Lodge – the energy of the fire rose in me, and I started dancing a Scottish jig on the coles… Still in my dreams I hear Stephen letting out the ‘good girl Lottie’ from that evening, as I allowed myself to fully meet with that energy and let the joy of the fire overtake me. As I stepped off the coals I slipped my hand in my pocket and immediately noticed that my phone wasn’t there, it had bounced out of my kangaroo-style pocket of my jumper, and straight onto the fire.
If I’d needed a message that I was too attached to my phone, this was certainly it!
As if that wasn’t enough, a few minutes later, as I skipped across the coals, the same thing happened again! Once again my phone was in the fire and needing tools to be removed.
The message by this time was loud and clear – to detach myself from my phone to a greater level this year was required.
And so it is.
For the last two months I’ve posted significantly less on my personal Facebook, and scheduled a lot more that goes out through my business pages. I’ve been considerably more mindful about what I’m sharing too, rather than regurgitating other people’s posts, and news stories of the awful things happening around the world, I’ve consciously worked at putting energy towards the great things that I have going on in my life, but as I’ve increasingly stepped away and changed my habits, I’m left wondering ‘do I still want to be on Facebook at all?’.
I first really got into Facebook when I lived in Burkina Faso in 2010, it was a great way of staying connected with friends and family back home, and also of documenting my trip, but nowadays my Facebook feels full of strangers trying to sell to me, or at least not really caring what’s going on in my world.
I also used to believe that Facebook was a great way to build my business, and I actually have no doubt that my use of Facebook was instrumental in me being where I am now… But that’s based more on activities from 5 years ago. As Facebook has started to share page posts with less and less of the people that follow that page I am left wondering if my business presence has any impact at all, unless of course I pay for it.
So, should I bite the bullet and let Facebook go?
On the other side of the coin there are the people all around the world that I consider my friends (some I consider my family) that I love to keep up with on Facebook. Mainly these are people I’ve met on trainings and retreats, or people from my past that have physically moved on. But there are also a handful of people that I have met online that I have never even met in the flesh, that I only ever have contact with through Facebook, yet I consider my friends.
Is this good reason to stay attached to Facebook, or am I just kidding myself that I have good reason to keep on scrolling?
At the moment I haven’t made any definite decisions about my relationship with Facebook – maybe I should take it off my phone for times when I’m not traveling, maybe I should just allow myself a set 15 minutes a day when I have a check-in, rather than a scroll-fest.
I am left wondering if there is ever really a middle ground.
For now, I am committing to writing in my journal what I get out of Facebook when I am on it – how much of what I see and do there makes me happy, and how much is an uncomfortable habit waiting to be kicked.
Have you ever given up any form of Social Media, or do you feel compelled to check-in every 5 minutes to see if your notifications have changed? I’d love to hear your thoughts on the middle-ground of Facebook and how it makes you feel.